What happened to that friendship?
Are you letting go?
Could you repair it?
What’s your criteria for a solid friendship and when, or should, one ever end?
There are many challenges in our lives, and nothing more rewarding than a friend to swap stories. It’s funny, but they come in all sizes, shapes and forms. Personalities completely across the board walk right into our little lives. In college, friends came and went almost as fast as a new semester. Sure, there were a select few that never escaped, but through the years, some drifted away.
It’s something of a wonder to me when people have lived in the same place all their lives. They have the rare opportunity to keep in touch with dear old friends. One of my girlfriends has a dinner every three months or so with her “kindergarten chums!” Can you imagine, having watched each other’s lives for a period that long? To see life through grammar, middle, high school and on into adulthood. What a phenomenal deal that would be!
We have all sorts of friends in our life. One’s we would travel with and seldom tire. Others that are higher energy than us but what a kick they are in short bursts. They’re the friends we rarely see but they intrigue us, and it pleases us to keep in touch with them.
It’s interesting what attracts us to certain people. Is it shared interests, proximity, vested years, qualities and or simply circumstances? Can’t we point to it, not necessarily! Take 20 of your closest friends and put them side by side. Would they have similar values, interests, hobbies, or life experiences? Of course not. These people have slipped into our lives, at various times, and for completely incongruent reasons.
Now, if you took the same 20 friends and narrowed the field down to your top ten. Would that make a significant difference? Could you decipher more commonalities? I doubt it.
Have you rewritten your profile many times, or is it something you did and haven’t looked at since?
What should your dating PROFILE say?
After seven years of dating online myself, my thoughts on this subject are from experience and a special place in my heart for those in the dating game.
So – are you over 40 and looking to find your sweetheart?
It’s tough knowing what to say in a few sentences to capsulize your life, your hopes, and your priorities. That’s part of writing an online dating profile.
There’s an expression –
“YOU CAN’T UNDERSTAND ANOTHER PERSON’S EXPERIENCE UNTIL YOU’VE WALKED A MILE IN THEIR SHOES.”
So how do you give a written preview of YOU?
First, it requires that you know yourself. What specifically are your preferences in a mate?
OK, enough about that let’s get started…You’ve got homework.
1) Make a list of 20-30 qualities in a future partner that you’d like to see. Post it up in your closet or by a bathroom mirror.
2) Make a list of 20-30 aspects of your personality and life experiences that YOU bring to someone’s life. Post this one right next to it. Reread it whenever you get down. I mean it!
3) Ask yourself, what are the qualities I find to be the most offensive on a first date?
4) Ask two of your dearest friends to look at your lists. Then ask them to RANK what they feel are your top five qualities.
Listen to what they say. They see you in a different light, through their eyes.
Back to – how you go about expressing these qualities in your profile?
What if you’re having more people than you have napkins, glasses, or plates? How do you make the table attractive without extra expense and energy? Let’s experiment and have fun setting the table.
Valentine’s Day is around the corner and then in a few months, it will be another holiday or special occasion.
It’s fun to have many folks over. There’s nothing wrong with buffet style and often it makes for a great casual setting. Even then, we still want to make the house feel and look festive!
But we run out of one kind of napkin or one kind of placemat with those sorts of numbers. Most of us buy 6-8 of one kind. There are solutions, and they apply whether you’re having 4-6 or 8-16 guests or more.
Your first temptation is to go out and buy what you need. But then sticker shock overcomes you. Besides, how many times do you have a large number of people? The solution is obvious and one we’re almost forced to do.
It’s rewarding to see it all come together when you MIX & MATCH.
Should we go out to a restaurant or hire a chef to come in and cook in our room?
Travel can be quite exhausting.
At home we don’t go out every night do we? It gets old.
This last year we tried twice to bring a chef in while visiting both in Puerto Vallarta and recently in Cabo.
Wow – what an experience!
It was interesting the cost difference from one locale to the other.
In PV, the base cost of preparing the food was $40 for six people. That was the total figure!
Whereas, in Cabo, it was $140 for six for the base cost.
Groceries for both evenings was determinate upon the menu selected. That was a separate figure. In Cabo we were delighted with that figure. It was a mere $64. for all the food for six people.
The tip was on top of that cost and both occasions we tipped them $100. The meals were exquisite to say the least. But – the amount of the tip is entirely up to you.
On both occasions, we had 5-6 choices for appetizers, main entree, and dessert. Options ranged from any steak, authentic Mexican selections, chicken dishes, to 5-6 types of fish entrees.
My girlfriends and I were having lunch the other day. We thought wouldn’t it be fantastic to cook authentic Mexican food?
On our way to Cabo the next week we wondered, do they offer cooking classes there? Wouldn’t it be FUN to see how local Mexican cuisine is prepared – right in someone’s kitchen?
We googled “Cabo cooking” and decided to send an email to a cooking class at Casa de Colores in Cabo San Lucas.
TripAdvisor had reviewed Casa de Colores and with five stars and 187 great reviews – that was good enough for us!
There were several other choices for cooking classes at various resorts and restaurants.